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|  | How to become spontaneous?
« Thread Started on Oct 5, 2009, 3:29am » | |
Heeii everyone ^^
I was wondering, maybe you guys know how to become more spontaneous. I'm really shy and stuff and I'm afraid to lose my friends and boyfriend because of that. I don't talk that much and I don't look a person in the eyes when he/she's talking to me(I look down). My ex bf broke up with me because of that D:
So could you guys please give me some tips and stuff?
That would be so kind! ^-^
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« Reply #1 on Oct 5, 2009, 11:32am » | |
I am also shy..
I can't really help with that but I think that your friends and your boyfriend have to accept you the way you are, if they don't would they be true?..
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| | Re: How to become spontaneous?
« Reply #2 on Oct 5, 2009, 11:56am » | |
I am not shy at all ! :0 I don't know why I'm not shy.
You shoudl think this way:
Every one is human, and we're all the same. No one will be more than you. You should try living as if your playing the lead role in your own movie called "life" 
The only one suffering because of you being shy is yourself.
Start by going out alone with no friends. If you have to ask something at a store you have to ask it yourself since there are no friends who can ask it in your place. I know this helped for a friend of mine.
and as Neo already said: If they don't want to be friends anymore because you're shy then they're not real friends.
I hope I didn't sound to harsh. Sorry if I did ;___;
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| | Re: How to become spontaneous?
« Reply #3 on Oct 5, 2009, 2:36pm » | |
@Neo;
Hmm maybe you're right ^^
@Kawaii;
Thnx I'm going to try to go shopping on my own, and no you didn't sound harsh (:
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| | Re: How to become spontaneous?
« Reply #4 on Nov 5, 2009, 4:53am » | |
Well, I understand how you feel - I'm extremely shy/ anxious/ neurotic in public, especially in college, places like that.
Something that sometimes helps (and this is usually when I'm in an interview type situation, I used to do it at school sometimes too) is to think of someone you admire or like, and try to imagine you're them, this has sometimes given me a little confidence. I know it sounds crazy, and maybe it is...
I'm usually so full of hate towards people around me that I start not to care quite as much as I would to begin with if they think I'm weird. That helps a little too, but in the end it might give you a bit of a reputation.
The suggestions above are good too - being a little more independant really helps (you may well be already, but, eh) as you don't feel quite as reliant on other people to be around you, so that would hopefully help with the worry of losing friends (which is unlikely to happen anyway, unless they're mean and useless, in which case, well, I wouldn't be concerned).
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| | Re: How to become spontaneous?
« Reply #5 on Nov 6, 2009, 4:03am » | |
Thnx ^^ I'm gonna try that
Oh and my BF broke up with me because there wasn't coming a word out of my mouth ><' He didn't know but I was really trying to talk alot to him..
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| | Re: How to become spontaneous?
« Reply #6 on Dec 16, 2009, 8:32am » | |
Ah... I really don't know what to say, I know how hard it is to be socialable/ chatty to people - I sometime just can't talk as I feel stupid ;S All I can say is try your hardest to talk, even if you feel stupid/ whatever the reason is... I just lack the motivation to try Ha
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| | Re: How to become spontaneous?
« Reply #7 on Dec 22, 2009, 8:59am » | |
if you are nervous talking to someone just imagine their Kanon/Gackt/Willy Wonka, or whoever youe idol is  Ha ha, now you will want to talk to them >D
Secondly the good thing about decora is that its a good talking point. You will find it a lot easier to talk if people ask you about your style, I've found.
Hope I was helpful, Good Luck (*≧▽≦)!
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